What Is Real Food?

This video is of me showing what I feel is Real Food VS NOT Real Food. 

Real Food Feeds and Nourishes You

You might have your own definition of Real Food which will depend upon what you want or need in your life.
You may crave energy.  You may want strength.  You may need balance or healing.
Some people would consider beauty or love essential food for their lives.

Real Food is food in its most natural state; it is unprocessed or with very little processing.
Real food does not need a label or fancy packaging.  A lemon is a lemon.  An onion is an onion. Real Food is a whole food that is life sustaining.

Whole Foods are: “Foods that have been minimally refined or processed, and are eaten in their natural state. In general nothing is removed from, or added to, the foodstuffs in preparation. Wholegrain cereal products are made by milling the complete grain.”  Definition is from: www.encyclopedia.com

Our bodies were designed to digest Real Food.  The best Real Foods to me are called Powerfoods.

mom an child in front of vegetables

Benefits of Real Food:

1. Full of naturally occurring vitamins and minerals to build and nourish the body.

If you research supplements carefully you will find  that the better more expensive supplements provide a wider and more sophisticated complement of ingredients. They are actually trying to get the combination and chemical structure closer and closer to the whole food state.  You might ask at some point: why not just eat the food?

2. No added fat

Too much fat makes you fat. The high levels of fat added to processed foods and junk food is the ‘bad’ kind that now has  been shown to increase heart disease, obesity.
Real Food nuts,  on the other hand,  have fat in them but it is often the ‘good kind’ that has been shown to help weight loss.

3.  No added sugar

White sugar (and similar high processed sugars)  makes you fat, creates anxiety and depression, increases diabetes, heart problems and rots your teeth, and suppresses your immune system.
Processed foods almost always have sugar added to them since they know it is addictive and they want to eat as much as possible.
Most real foods (except meat) have carbohydrates in them, usually in lower quantities, but even if there are higher amounts of carbohydrates, such as in fruit, it is more slowly absorbed into the system because of fiber and other whole food elements so the sugars are not absorbed so quickly. We call these smart carbs.
This means you get energy but without the problems.

4.  No added saltreal food with diana

To much salt is hard on the kidneys and creates high blood pressure.  It ends up being one more toxin the body must deal with.

Real foods have minimal amount of naturally occurring sodium which is actually good for the body.
Most processed foods have added salt in increase the flavor (even if it is very sweet) so you will eat more and eat more often.

5.  Real Food Looks, Smells and Feels Great

I love strolling through the produce […]

By |April 8th, 2013|Nutrition|11 Comments

Very Best Foods for a Summer Detox

Did you know that summer is a very good time to detox? This is because fresh organic fruit and vegetables are much more available and that it is warm so the body finds it is easier to be in a detox process. This is a natural process. When we detox, we eliminate toxins and begin to feel healthier and energised.

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  1. Lemons are the best food for a detox in spring, summer and fall.
  • Are highly alkalizing for the body. This helps restore balance to the body’s pH.
  • Your liver loves lemons:The lemon is a wonderful stimulant to the liver and is a dissolvent of uric acid and other poisons, liquefies the bile” says Back to Eden, Mr. Kloss.
  • Lemons stimulate bile production and they help cleanse the kidneys.

watermelon slices and juice

  1. Watermelon is the number one food for a summer detox.
  • Is high in dietary fiber.  This helps keep the colon clean, helping cleanse your body.
  • Contains glutathione that helps improve liver function. Glutathione is the body’s most powerful antioxidant and detoxifying agent.
  • Is a good source of potassium. Potassium balances the high amounts of sodium in our diets which supports your kidneys and is great when cleansing.
  • Reduces inflammation: Less inflammation means lower toxic load in the body.
  • It is extremely alkaline-forming in the body. Fat cells contain toxicity and acid. Your body will not let go of fat cells while you are still acidic.
  • Contains high amounts of citrulline. This helps to create arginine which removes ammonia and other toxins from the body.
  • 1 cup of watermelon is only 47 calories. This is great for weight loss.

Read more about Watermelon Health Benefits.


  1. Cucumbers are helpful in helping flush toxins out of the body. The high water content in cucumbers gets your urinary system moving.
  1. Raspberries are low in calories making them an ideal fruit for people who want to lose weight.
  • The glycemic index of raspberries is 3, meaning they are a low glycemic load food. They have a low effect on our blood sugar, helping us to maintain it and keeping it from spiking.
  1. Blueberries are one of the most healing foods.
  • Have been found to reduce inflammation in many studies on animals;
  • Have antiviral properties and help to block toxins from crossing the blood-brain barrier to gain access to the delicate brain.


celery slices

  1. Celery is filled with fiber that is good for weight loss and is about 95% water.


  1. Spinach alkalizing the body helps to balance the body.
  • Full of anti- inflammatory antioxidants. Fat cells produce chemistry that creates inflammation which can lead to Obesity.
  1. Avocados contain glutathione which helps the liver detoxify synthetic chemicals.
  • Can also lower cholesterol and dilate blood vessels while blocking artery-destroying toxicity.
  1. Flaxseeds have a balance of omega 3 and 6 fatty acids which reduce inflammation.
  • Are high soluble and insoluble fibre. This helps stabilise blood sugar and promotes proper functioning of the intestines.


  1. Mint leaves are great for summer cooling.
  • Help you digest your food more effectively. It improves the flow of bile from the liver to the gallbladder, to the small intestine, where it breaks down dietary fats.

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By |June 23rd, 2016|Uncategorized|1 Comment

Happy Father’s Day!

So often this day is missed, unlike ‘Mother’s Day’ which is always celebrated.

I am so grateful that my father believed in me. Thank you Dad. May you be resting in deep peace since I will not be visiting you today.

Fathers Need to be Thanked Too!

Here are some very good reasons described passionately in these quotes.

“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong
as the need for a father’s protection.”

~ Sigmund Freud 

“What do I owe my father? Everything.”
~ Henry Van Dyke 

“One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters.”
~ George Herbert

“I’m always going to love my father.”
~ Floyd Mayweather, Jr.

“Fathers are angels sent from heaven.”

Dad, wherever you are, you are gone
but you will never be forgotten.”
~ Conrad Hall

 Here is a fun song for all those fathers out there!

The Father’s Day Song. A funny song for Dads.

By |June 18th, 2016|Events|0 Comments

Lemon Nutrients

Lemon (Citrus limon), fresh, without peel
See the table below for in depth analysis of nutrients
Nutrition Value per 100 g
(Source: USDA National Nutrient data base)
Principle Nutrient Value Percentage of RDA
Energy 29 Kcal 1.5%
Carbohydrates 9.32 g 7%
Protein 1.10 g 2%
Total Fat 0.30 g 1%
Cholesterol 0 mg 0%
Dietary Fiber 2.80 g 7%
Folates 11 µg 3%
Niacin 0.100 mg 1%
Pantothenic acid 0.190 mg 4%
Pyridoxine 0.080 mg 6%
Riboflavin 0.020 mg 1.5%
Thiamin 0.040 mg 3.5%
Vitamin C 53 mg 88%
Vitamin A 22 IU 1%
Vitamin E 0.15 mg 1%
Vitamin K 0 µg 0%
Sodium 2 mg 0%
Potassium 138 mg 3%
Calcium 26 mg 3%
Copper 37 µg 4%
Iron 0.60 mg 7.5%
Magnesium 8 mg 2%
Manganese 0.030 mg 1%
Zinc 0.06 mg 0.5%
Carotene-߸ 3 µg
Carotene-a 1 µg
Crypto-xanthin-ß 20 µg
Lutein-zeaxanthin 11 µg
By |June 17th, 2016|Nutrition|0 Comments

Why Do We Love Pecans so Much?

Grab a handful of delicious gourmet pecans to celebrate National Pecan Month. Sure, pecan pie tastes amazing but let’s enjoy the wonderful health benefits of pecans in other ways too!

The name ‘Pecan’ is an Algonquian word which means ‘a nut requiring a stone to crack’ it. The pecan is not really a nut; it is technically a fruit with a single stone or pit, surrounded by a husk.

Health Benefits of Pecans

Below are summaries of research conducted since 2000 that clearly indicate that pecans can be a healthy addition to your diet.

  1. Good for Heart Health

Pecans are rich in one form of vitamin E; gamma tocopherol which has been found to be helpful in preventing coronary heart disease.

  1. Lower Cholesterol

It was found in a study at the Loma Linda University that eating a diet supplemented with pecans, gamma-tocopherol levels in the body doubled and bad cholesterol in the blood decreased by 33 percent.  “This study is another piece of evidence that pecans are a healthy food,” says researcher Dr. Haddad.

To hear more about what researcher Dr. Haddad has to say watch this video:

  1. Pecans May Protect Your Nervous System

Adding pecans to your diet are helpful in protecting the nervous system and may delay the progression of age-related motor neuron degeneration such as diseases like ALS, also known as Lou Gehrig’s Disease according to research at the Center for Cellular Neurobiology at the University of Massachusetts Lowell.

  1. Are High in Antioxidants

Foods that have a high antioxidant capacity can decrease the risk of cancer, coronary heart disease, and neurological diseases such as Alzheimer’s.  Pecans contain the highest antioxidant capacity compared to all nuts according to the largest USDA study of food antioxidants.

  1. Weight Gain?

A study found that eating nuts did not increase weight, so a few pecans a day and can be eaten without gaining weight.

  1. Pecans are Nutrient Dense
  • They contain more than 19 vitamins and minerals including vitamin A, vitamin E, folic acid, calcium, magnesium, phosphorus, potassium, oleic acid, vitamin B1, thiamin, magnesium, protein and zinc.
  • Also, pecans are good source of protein containing very few carbohydrates and are sodium-free.
  • Approximately 20 halves contain 196 calories so you can eat 10 halves for less than 100 calories.

Above from: Nutrition Data

Pecan History

Fossil pecan remains show that the pecan tree was prehistoric.

Native Americans cultivated wild pecans in the 1500s.

They are native to the Mississippi valley.  The world’s largest pecan nursery is located in Lumberton, Mississippi.

Fun Pecan Facts

  • There are about 78 pecans used in every pecan pie!
  • 80% of the world’s pecans are grown in the U.S.
  • There are over 1,000 varieties of pecans and many are named for Native American Indian tribes (Cheyenne, Mohawk, Sioux, Choctaw and Shawnee).
  • Texas adopted the pecan tree as its state tree in 1919.
  • There are many sizes of pecans: mammoth, extra-large, large, medium, small and midget.
  • Before a pecan can be sold, first it is cleaned, sterilized, cracked and finally, shelled.
  • Texas has over 70 million wild pecan trees; the pecan tree was officially designated the Texas state tree in 1919.
  • The shells of pecans make great mulch for gardens.

Watch for tasty gluten free, vegan pecan recipes next week.


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By |April 2nd, 2016|Nutrition|0 Comments

Let’s Celebrate Spring with Inspiring Quotes

I love spring and many say it is their favourite season!

Getting back outdoors, enjoying the sun and fresh air without all those heavy winter clothes is wonderful.  Often at this time of year winter can still be happening so read these inspiring quotes to help you get that spring back into your step!


“Spring is when life’s alive in everything.”
Christina Rossetti

“The beautiful spring came;
and when Nature resumes her loveliness,
the human soul is apt to revive also.”
Harriet Ann Jacobs

spring child

 “Behold, my friends, the spring is come;
the earth has gladly received the embraces of the sun,
and we shall soon see the results of their love!”

Sitting Bull

“Everything is blooming most recklessly; if it were voices instead of colors, there would be an unbelievable shrieking into the heart of the night.”
Rainer Maria Rilke


“Never yet was a springtime, when the buds forgot to bloom.”
Margaret Elizabeth Sangster

“I think that no matter how old or infirm I may become,
I will always plant a large garden in the spring.
Who can resist the feelings of hope and joy
that one gets from participating in nature’s rebirth?”
Edward Giobbi


“Spring makes its own statement, so loud and clear that the gardener seems to be only one of the instruments, not the composer.”
Geoffrey B. Charlesworth

“One swallow does not make a summer, but one skein of geese,
cleaving the murk of March thaw, is the spring.”
 Aldo Leopold


“It’s spring fever.  That is what the name of it is.  And when you’ve got it, you want – oh, you don’t quite know what it is you do want, but it just fairly makes your heart ache, you want it so!” Mark Twain

“Paradise we live
ushering spring in sun
on my shoulder.”
Haiku by Dani Zyp

“They who meet on an April night
are forever lost in love,
if there’s moonlight all about
and there’s no moon above.” 

E.Y. “Yip” Harburg and Fred Saidy

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“I want to do with you what spring does with the cherry trees.”
Pablo Neruda, Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Despair

“Spring is when you feel like whistling even with a shoe full of slush.”
Doug Larson


“Spring is nature’s way of saying, ‘Let’s party!’”
Robin Williams

 “Spring won’t let me stay in this house any longer!
I must get out and breathe the air deeply again.”
Gustav Mahler


“Science has never drummed up quite as effective
a tranquilizing agent as a sunny spring day.”

– W. Earl Hall 


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By |March 28th, 2016|Inspiration|0 Comments

10 Winter Fruits and Vegetables

A Guide to Winter Food Infographic

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By |February 18th, 2016|Health Tips, Nutrition|0 Comments

The Benefits Of Kissing

Do you love kissing? Kissing is so good for us and full of health benefits.
Chocolate may have love benefits but kissing burns calories while chocolate adds calories.
Did you know that even Chimpanzees kiss with their mouth?
Here are some fun kissing facts for you in this infographic.
Kissing-Infographic-02 Infographic with permission by  byuidating.com.

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By |February 10th, 2016|Health Tips|1 Comment

Orange and Spinach Salad

This salad is a sneaky way to get the powerfood spinach into your diet. Also, all the ingredients are very healthy.  It is an easy to make and very tasty; everyone I have served it to enjoys it very much.


1 pound fresh Spinach
1/4 cup Pecans or Walnuts, roasted till golden
1 – 2 Oranges, peeled and sliced
1 small Red Onion, sliced (optional)
2 tablespoons Lemon Juice
1/4 cup Olive Oil
Few drops of Stevia
Soya sauce or Braggs to taste


  1.  Wash and trim spinach; pat dry with paper towels.
  2. Combine lemon juice, oil, stevia and Tamari or Braggs in large bowl.
  3.  Now, toss spinach, oranges, onion and nuts with dressing.
  4. Serve and enjoy.
By |February 4th, 2016|Recipes, Salad|0 Comments

Health Benefits of Grapefruit: Weight Loss and Much More

“So far I’ve always kept my diet secret but now I might as well tell everyone what it is. Lots of grapefruit throughout the day and plenty of virile young men at night.”    – Angie Dickinson

Grapefruit has been scientifically proven to help with health and weight loss. The good news is you don’t have to go on a Hollywood fad diet to get those benefits.

Grapefruit and Weight Loss

Here are two studies verifying grapefruits help with weight loss:

  • A 12 week study had people who were overweight consume half a fresh grapefruit before a meal for 12 weeks, the results showed they lost almost 5 pounds after 4 weeks, and almost 11 ½ pounds after 12 weeks.
  • Another study with 91 obese patients was conducted to find out how grapefruit affected body weight, insulin resistance and metabolic syndrome. They found that those who ate half of a fresh grapefruit before meals (meals had no restriction) lost 3.5 pounds in 12 weeks, improved insulin resistance and had a reduction in two-hour post-glucose insulin level.

Grapefruits Burn More Calories Than They Contain

This fruit is similar to celery, as it is made up of about 60 percent water, with a bit of healthy fiber thrown in. The fiber helps with digestion and makes you feel full.

Caution: Grapefruit juice’s interaction with drugs can be deadly.  If you are taking any of the medications listed here, do not eat grapefruit: Grapefruit Interaction with Drugs List.

grapefuit for weight loss and health 7 Health Benefits of Grapefruits

We know grapefruit is helpful for weight loss. Grapefruits are also full of pectin, nutrients, are low in calories and contain no saturated fats or cholesterol. On top of all those wonderful elements, they have many health benefits.

  1. Red Grapefruit Lowers Cholesterol & Fights Heart Disease. One red grapefruit a day can help keep heart disease away, according to a study by Israeli researchers in 2006. A major risk factor for heart disease is high blood cholesterol. In the study, the patients consuming one grapefruit per day significantly reduced cholesterol compared to a control group of patients that did not. The researchers say it may be because grapefruit has a high level of antioxidants.
  1. Helps Reduce Lung Cancer Risk

White grapefruit contains a high amount of the flavonoid, naringin, which inhibits the activation of a cancer-causing enzyme. Pink grapefruit has some too, along with the antioxidant lycopene.

  1. Inhibits Colon Cancer:

Limonin, grapefruit pulp powder and the flavonoid naringin, were examined in a study in relation to colon cancer cells. The scientists concluded that eating grapefruit may help to suppress the development of colon cancer.

  1. Helps Repair Prostate Cancer

A study has shown that the citrus flavonoid naringenin stimulates DNA repair in prostate cancer cells.grapefruit and juice on table 443

  1. Flushes Heavy Metal

Grapefruit is full of pectin which binds to heavy metals, flushing them out in the digestive process. A study was performed with hospitalized children between the ages of 5 and 12 years who had high blood serum levels of lead. They were given three dosages of citrus pectin per day for 28 days. The scientists found that there was a dramatic decrease in blood serum levels of lead as a result.

  1. Full of vitamin C, to help keep colds at bay

Half a grapefruit has 38.4 mg of vitamin C which is 64 percent of daily requirement.
1 cup of fresh raw pink grapefruit juice has 93.9 mg which is 156 percent of […]

By |January 30th, 2016|Nutrition|1 Comment

6 Power Foods that Help Fight Cancer

Cancer rates are expected to rise 70 percent over the next 20 years according to WHO despite tremendous advances in medical technology and knowledge. On January 13, 2016,  President Barack Obama announced a national initiative to find a cure for cancer.

Should we wait for the medical system to find a cure or can we act for ourselves now?

Let’s start with eating healthy real foods, especially foods that have been proven scientifically to help in fighting cancer. Here are six of them.

6 Power Foods that Help Fight Cancer

1. Flaxseed Lignans Help Fight Cancer

  • Reduce prostate cancer with flaxseeds.  Research studies have shown that lignans can slow the growth of prostate cancer cells.
  • Breast cancer survival was significant in three studies that followed thousands of women diagnosed with breast cancer published at PubMed Central® 1, 2, 3. They found, “Lignans might play an important role in reducing all-cause and cancer-specific mortality of the patients operated on for breast cancer.”

2. Tomatoes Lower Risk of Cancer 

  • Breast cancer can be reduced with tomatoes with their high amounts of carotenoids (alpha-carotene, beta-carotene, lutein, zeaxanthin, lycopene, and total carotenoids) as shown by research in the Journal of the National Cancer Institute .
  • Prostate cancer was found to be reduced in a study showing men who ate more than 10 portions of tomatoes or tomato products per week reduced their risk of prostate cancer by 18% compared to men who ate less than 10.
  • Consuming tomatoes and tomato-based products has been shown to lower risk of lung, stomach, and prostate gland cancer and it may also preventive it for breast, cervix, oral cavity, colon, esophagus, and pancreas.  It is clear that the current evidence favours the consumption of tomatoes and tomato products rather than lycopene supplements as stated in the Oxford Journals.

3. Avocados Help Cure Cancer

  • The glutathione found in avocados has been found to help prevent some kinds of cancers.
    Researchers found extracts from Hass avocados kill or stop the growth of pre-cancerous cells that lead to oral cancer.
  • Avocado extract was found to inhibit prostate cancer.
  • Molecules in avocados have been found to attack leukemia stem cells directly while leaving healthy cells unharmed according to a study.

4. Garlic’s Allium Fights Cancer

  • Lung cancer was decreased by 44% in a study with those who ate raw garlic two or more times a week according to a study published in the journal Cancer Prevention Research. The researchers also found that even smokers who ate raw garlic decreased their risk of lung cancer by around 30%.
  • Garlic, as an allium vegetable, has been found in a study to protect against stomach and colon cancers.
  • “In test tubes, garlic seems to kill cancer cells. And studies suggest that people who eat more raw or cooked garlic are less likely to get colon and stomach cancers and cancer of the esophagus.” – University of Maryland Medical Center.

5. Legumes (Beans and Lentils) Reduce Cancer Risk

  • Prostate cancer was found to be lower in a six-year study of more than 14,000 Seventh Day Adventist men living in the United States.  Those with the highest intakes of legumes (beans, lentils, or split peas) had a significantly lower risk of prostate cancer
  • Legumes were found to reduce risk for colon cancer.  Scientists examined 14 studies with 1,903,459 participants and the found that those consuming the most legumes, especially soybeans, had the lowest risk for cancer.
  • Pancreatic cancer is less when legumes are consumed more than two times a week compared to those who ate legumes rarely or less than once a week according to a study.

6. Cruciferous Vegetables (Broccoli, Cabbage, Brussels Sprouts) Help Prevent Cancer

  • Cruciferous vegetable have been […]
By |January 17th, 2016|Health News, Nutrition|2 Comments

What We Leaned From Science About Health In 2015

2015 was a big year for us health nuts, with an abundance of great health studies published. They definitely affect our decisions for nourishment and lifestyle in small and large ways.

The latest scientific health research is helpful in making good decisions.

10 Health Discoveries Scientifically Proven in 2015

1. Highly Processed Foods Linked To Addictive Eating

In February, 2015 a University of Michigan study confirmed that those highly-processed and fatty foods like pizza, chips and sugary chocolate are, in fact, addictive. The study also determined which healthy foods we have more control over.

You can find the most and least addictive foods here.

2. Sleep Is Important For Weight Loss and Optimal Health.

In March, 2015 a study revealed that losing 30 minutes of sleep per day may promote weight gain and unfavorably affect your metabolism.

In June, 2015 the American Academy of Sleep Medicine & Sleep Research Society recommended that people get at least seven hours of sleep per night to maintain optimal health. This was following a 12-month project conducted by a Consensus Panel of 15 of the nation’s foremost sleep experts.

3. Mental Health Prescription: Nature

In March, 2015 the medical journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America, discovered that being outdoors and spending time in nature transforms our brain and reduces our risk of mental illness.

The study included two groups of people who walked for 90 minutes, one group in a nature setting and the other beside a busy four-lane road. The researchers measured heart and respiration rates, did brain scans and participants filled out questionnaires before and after walking. They found that the people who took 90 minute nature walks had lower levels of anxiety and had reduced brain activity in an area of the brain which has been linked to mental illness.

4. Carbonated Drinks Associated With A High Risk of Out-Of-Hospital Cardiac Arrest

In September 1, 2015 the findings of a 6 year study was analyzed and posted by European Society of Cardiology linking carbonated beverages with Out-Of-Hospital Cardiac Arrests (OHCA). The research was done by the cardiology department at Fukuoka University in Japan. Beverage consumption of almost 800,000 people was tracked in Japan for seven years. They found that those who spent more money on carbonated beverages were more likely to suffer cardiac arrests outside of a hospital.

5.  Our Biological Age Is More Important Than Our Chronological Age 

On July 28, a study was published in which scientists traced biomarkers for aging in healthy people in their 20s and 30s to determine how our biological age is related to our chronological age. First you need to know that we have two ages, our chronological age (determined by the year of birth) and our biological age (determined by our lifestyle choices). The one we have control over is our biological age. The scientists found that some people do seem to age faster than others, as often revealed in their physical appearance. Results show that those who look younger actually are younger biologically, according to these biomarkers.


6. Bacon, Hot Dogs And Other Processed Meats Cause Cancer

At the end of October, the World Health Organization announced that bacon, sausages, hot dogs and other processed meats cause cancer. After extensive research and evaluation, they classified bacon and other processed meats as carcinogens. The World Health Organization has evaluated the carcinogenicity of the consumption of red meat and processed meat. They concluded that one 50 gram portion of processed meat eaten daily increases the risk of colorectal cancer by 18 percent.

7. E-Cigarette Flavors May Cause […]

By |January 4th, 2016|Health News|0 Comments

How To Accept Yourself – Instead of Making New Year’s Resolutions

Would you rather lose 10 pounds that will probably be back by springtime, or would you rather gain a new perspective that will last for a lifetime?

This may sound like an unfair question, but it speaks to the difference between the permanent, life-changing process of learning to accept yourself, as opposed to achieving one or two superficial goals around the beginning of the new year.

Can you imagine a friendship or a romantic relationship in which one party says to the other:

“You know Sally (or Barry). Your teeth need to be whiter. I think I could like you or even love you IF you get your teeth whitened by next Tuesday. ”

The answer is not very likely because you know that by the next time these two come together, another request would emerge.

“You know, I’m happy with your teeth now. But you are definitely carrying a few extra pounds and your laugh is kind of weird. I know these are harder to deal with so I will (generously) give you a whole month to change. Then, I might really like you or even love you”.

Could you imagine yourself saying this to your friends and loved ones?

Of course not, but that is exactly how we treat ourselves. We decide that we can only be happy and love ourselves if we make changes to our body or finances (or whatever) and we make resolutions to do so.

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Making New Year’s Resolutions like this is not only potentially problematic with our psychological health; it also has very little chance of success.

Although 40 to 50 % of the population makes New Year’s resolutions, only 8% ever achieve their goals. These successes were probably short attainable goals rather than lofty long term goals. Experts like psychologist Lynn Bufka recommend setting manageable goals, so we have a better chance of succeeding.

It’s totally OK to improve yourself. It’s wonderful to create better habits and buff up and be healthier, but it is so much easier and holistic if you start with an acceptance of yourself.

How Do We Do That?

1. Find the Good Within Ourselves and Be Thankful For It

This includes parts of our personality and activities which we can think about and can make a list of. For example, “I care about the environment. I’m a good cook. I can run like the wind.”

Yes, write it down, make a list and be thankful for it. Research has shown that gratitude is linked to better relationships and healthier habits.

2. Be Realistic About Our Limitations

Recognize that everyone is totally unique and has a different function in life. Everyone, including you, is doing their best given the circumstances. I like this short affirmation by Farnoosh Brock:  “I accept myself. I love myself. I forgive myself for what I didn’t know until I learned it.”

3. Be As Compassionate and Forgiving to Yourself As You Would Be to Others.

If your friend was feeling bad about not getting top marks on an exam, would you berate them for it? That’s exactly what we do to ourselves. Be a good friend to yourself every time self-judgment or criticism come up in our mind. Give your friend (you) the benefit of the doubt.

Forgive yourself sign on old wood with a blurred sunset sky and sea on background

4. Watch for the Inner Positive Feelings

We have many positive thoughts and feelings and experiences during the day but we tend to remember the problems since they have to be dealt with and […]

By |January 3rd, 2016|Health News, Health Tips, Inspiration|0 Comments